Some heritages are more likely to succeed in marriage than others. Here are some of them.
To make a successful marriage, one of the secrets would ultimately be ... genetics. This is the conclusion of a new study published in the journal PLOS ONE, who analyzed the role of a genetic variation affecting oxytocin, the so-called "love hormone".
Still the subject of much research, oxytocin is known to stimulate milk production in young mothers and could inhibit the detection of fear. It would also promote a mother's protective behavior towards her children. In humans, the effect of oxytocin has been found in confidence, empathy, generosity, sexuality, stress reactivity and social or conjugal attachment. It would be, in a way, "a filter of love".
Marriage satisfaction and emotional security
Research Director Joan Monin, an associate professor at the Yale School of Public Health, and her team studied 178 married couples, ages 37 to 90. Each participant responded to a survey assessing levels of marital satisfaction and emotional security, and provided a saliva sample for the genetic analysis.
As a result, when at least one partner had genetic variation producing more oxytocin, the couple reported significantly higher marital satisfaction and emotional safety. "This study shows that the way we feel in our intimate relationships is influenced by more than the experiences we share with our partners over time," said Joan Monin. "In marriage, people are also influenced by their genetic predispositions and those of their partner," she adds, up to 4%.
"A couple needs permanent efforts"
Remains "that a couple requires permanent efforts, which is not always easy to accept, which is why I repeat that a couple is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 1 + 1 = 3: you, me and our relationship Taking care of your relationship requires time, availability, goodwill and it is not easy to house in our diaries.I invite lovers to dialogue, according to the method I named ECA: Listen, Understand, Accept, "recalls psychiatrist and psychotherapist Frédéric Fanget in his book Dare the couple.